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Today I want to discuss ‘worrying’. I am pretty sure we all worry about something on a daily basis. For some of you, you may worried ‘you aren’t where you want to be right now’ or ‘I’m not sure I will ever be able to reach my goals’ and this might be in your personal life or riding related. You may even worry you don’t have anything in for tea or will you make a good impression on some new people you have to meet this weekend? It could be anything, my point is we all worry but we shouldn’t. Here is why:
It can stop you enjoying the present
If you are constantly fixated upon your worries then you will be unable to actually appreciate and enjoy what is going on in your life at present, which could later lead to regret. Life is short, so stop worrying and take the time to enjoy your life! If your worries are riding related – it should not matter if you aren’t doing better or more than what you are doing right now. If you are having fun and you are happy that is all that matters.
It is pointless
No matter how much you worry about something you are powerless to be able to change the outcome, so you constantly worrying just became inane. Focus more upon the outcome of the worry and how you will handle what does actually happen at the time it happens. Question if it is really important? Will it have a big impact? Really?
You will lose focus
The more you become obsessed by worrying the more you lose sight of what is really important to you and your goals. If you do lose sight of your goals, the less chance you have of achieving them. So, rather than worry, sit yourself down with a cup of tea (or glass of wine) and create an action plan on how you will achieve your goals and set about carrying it out.
It may make you lose confidence
I myself have particularly had a lot of difficulty with this one. Often when I worry about work or riding I notice the more I worry, the less I do. I have also noticed that when you combine not doing anything proactive with chronic worrying it will lead to then losing confidence in yourself and your abilities, which is a great shame. My advice would be to do your best to not let worrying affect your confidence and surround yourself with great people who can remind you of the great things you can or have achieved when you might not be able to.
It could potentially make you ill
Worrying can lead to emotional and physical stress, weight loss, muscle tension, headaches, insomnia, depression, dizziness, fatigue, nausea, shortness of breath and irritability. So, don’t make yourself ill with worry, after all what is the point in that? Instead take some time out for yourself to relax when you are feeling particularly stressed out. Perhaps just set aside some time to go out for a peaceful hack or a nice bath.
Remember, You are OK
In the grand scheme of things, take a step back and look at your life. Are you happy and healthy? Do you live a positive life and surround yourself with great people? Is your horse happy and well? If you do, then you actually don’t have anything to worry about. You are OK and everything will be OK. Trust me.
I hope this helps in some way and thank you for reading!